Because children acquire the abilities to become responsible, caring adults and citizens of their society from the people who are most intensely involved with them, parenting is the most important and challenging job any of us can have; yet, it receives little support or recognition in our society. There is very little formal training for this task and parents are often isolated and without adequate support networks.
As a psychology with an interest in parenting education, I have found two articles introducing about parenting education.“ Do This When Your Teen Lies to You ,” in the Psychology today by Jeffrey Bernstein Ph.D discusses the the first article under “By as he discuss in article, pre-teens and teens can lie to try to avoid getting in trouble, defend a friend they like, or lie because they are too upset to talk about painful experiences, like rejection from peers.It’s important to be cognizant of the difference between lies that cover up for risky behaviors. Lying that results in, or covers for, unsafe or illegal behavior must be addressed directly.. When the lying is about dangerous behaviors, involving drug or alcohol use, stealing, or other risky activities, seek guidance from a qualified mental health professional in your local community.
In the second article under psychologytoday “More Than a White Lie By Hara Estroff Marano ”, discusses the some relationships, such as those between adolescents and their parents, are especially fraught with lies. Experts say that it generally has to do with self-esteem; people lie because they aren’t happy with themselves. They want to be seen as more exciting people; they want to be loved..Kids may resort to lying when a new sibling is born or when parents seem distracted by their own problems. It could also be a signal that something is going on in school that needs remedying.It’s wise for a parent to ask a child what’s going on. It could be as simple a conversation as: “Now tell me about things that happen to you that you don’t like.” That’s generally a good way for adults to get helpful information without making the child feel ashamed about her lying.
Drawing on these two articles and my experience as a family counselor , I have listed three actions that I would recommend to parenting who would like to be good behavior with their children:
- rejection from peers – Rejected children are those who are disliked by many of their peers and liked by few.
- Self-esteem – Self-esteem is often seen as a personality trait, which means that it tends to be stable and enduring.
- lying to parents – A false statement deliberately presented as being true; a falsehood.
Based on an analysis of these two articles and my experience at family coun, I believe that by acknowledging the lie without moralizing or lecturing, you are sending a powerful message to your child that being dishonest won’t get them what they want.
My name is Laleh Nikbakht and i am a family counseling and pursuing online certificate in Social Media Marketing at Northwestern University http://bit.ly/1L1P3SU . http://bit.ly/2cB5Hoq. Feel free to reach out or connect me at Twitter @laleh_nikbakht , Linkedin http://bit.ly/2d1yORT